Monday, October 1, 2012

The Fear of Success

As desperately as we want it, success can be a very scary thing. It's not uncommon to fear your own success, but if you let that fear take control over your desire to succeed, you'll never achieve the success you dream about. All to often, it's easy to let that fear of success hold us back because of the unknown, but if you just take the risk to push your career forward, you'll quickly see you had nothing to fear at all. Even if you don't succeed, at least you'll know you tried.

I'm guilty of fearing my own success. It's one reason why it took my writing career so long to take off. It's easy to become comfortable with where your writing career is at, and difficult to break away from what you're used to. But, by challenging yourself and your writing skills, you'll progress as a writer. Take on those clients you aren't sure if you're ready for, because if you're considering taking on the project in the first place, chances are, you're ready.

Don't fear your own success because by doing so, you'll be the only thing holding back your success. Take the risk if the benefits out weigh the risks. You'll see soon enough, it was a risk worth taking.

Monday, September 24, 2012

Are you being used as a doormat?

There's a lot more to this writing career thing than people often tell you when you first start out. Often, you'll get into a comfortable groove, where you feel like you've finally gotten it figured out, but then the cosmics go and throw in a new twist that you must overcome in order to keep building your writing career. One of the most common twists in a writing career is when a client begins to use you as a doormat. If you're working with a client who appears to be a little less that appreciative, ask yourself-- are you being used as a doormat? If so, it may be time to reconsider your relationship and agreement with your client.

There are times when you'll run across a client who begins to use you as a doormat. It really isn't that  out of the ordinary. Often, you're able to resolve the situation without loosing the client, but other times, if you're really being undervalued and underappreciated, then you many need to reconsider working for that client. It may be time to call it quiets if you're being walked all over.

When working with clients, there's going to be at least one who begins to ask too much from you or feels you're doing too little. This can leave you feeling a little discouraged and undervalued. If this is the case, you can often speak with your client about it and resolve the issue. Maybe there was a lack of communication somewhere along the line about what your original agreement included. Maybe you just need to renegotiate the terms of your agreement to resolve the issue. If you're client truly values your services, they are often willing to do so. However, if they aren't, it may be time to walk away from the agreement.

But, then there are other times when a client just lacks respect and appreciation for your skills as a writer. Speaking with them can resolve the issue, but if they truly discredit your work and lack respect for you, it may be time to walk away from the client because the aggravation and lack of respect just aren't worth it.

It can be difficult to walk away from a client, but it's even harder to be used as a doormat. You have to value yourself and your skills as a writer enough not to tolerate being used as a doormat. If it comes to the point where you choose to walk away, don't panic. When one door closes, another door will open.

If taking with your client hasn't resolved the issue, you need to analyze the situation to see if the stress and the aggravation are really worth it. The bottom line is, don't undervalue yourself and your work just because your client is. You're worth more and you deserve respect.

Have you or are you being used as a doormat? How did you handle the situation?